Lack of Care, Caring Enough or Over-Caring

As people will always say, too much or too little of something is never the right remedy. This basically means that in whatever we do, we have to always strike the right balance. Easy as it sounds, lets look further into it and see whether can we really strike that right balance.

Lets take a simple example, how much should we really care for a person? Now, no matter what people say, I would like to first state my point of view, which is that we can never care enough for a person, especially the one we deeply love. It can never be enough. I mean, how can we judge the amount of care for that particular person? How can we ever know whether its lacking, enough or when it comes to a stage where caring turns into annoying and irritating?

I'll have to admit, too much of something is never good. If we were to care for someone in the way where we call or msg that person every single minute or every single hour, it would then turn into harrassing that person. This is no doubt. Then, what is it that we should do when we really worry bout that person? Obviously, we would try to get in touch with him/her and then ask bout his/her whereabouts, whether he/she's fine and so on.

ONE HOUR LATER...

Knowing that he/she is somewhere far, in a bad mood, you just keep thinking of him/her and you just feel like getting in touch again. Now, here's where the problem arises. After just an hour, we are worried again. We tend to look at it as a fair thing to do based on our perspective. Well, it does seem fair at the first instance. Nevertheless, it still has the chance of turning into a problem or at times becomes an issue that would be hard to solve within a short period of time.

Don't get me wrong though, I ain't putting the blame on anyone and not saying that anyone is at fault. I guess what I am really trying to say is that we can never find the right balance between not enough, just enough and more than enough. Sometimes, we feel that its the right thing to do and we just do it w/out thinking bout the consequences. At times as well, we tend to really get pretty much worried and because we really care, we act in ways that may be rather unacceptable.

Well, with that said, I guess the main thing that I am trying to conclude here is that the understanding between both parties has to be there.

Having said that as well, I totally agree if anyone out there were to come and tell me that the ultimate solution is the willingness to tolerate and give the special someone the space that he/she needs and deserves. That is simply essential and it leads to many positive things including showing the other party that the faith and trust towards one another is there. It gives both parties freedom, happiness and most of all being able to enjoy the relationship and share the love that they have for one another.

So, I guess, whether its lack of care, caring enough or over-caring... It does not really matter. What matters most is the time that both individuals in the relationship spend with one another and the memories they will bring with them for the rest of their lives. Nothing else matters beyond that. As long as they love one another, there shouldn't be any issue of lacking, enough or beyond enough. Simply said, it will never be enough. No matter how much we do or say, there's never enough of LOVE that can be shared within one another.

P.S. This is an original post. None of its contents have been edited prior to posting. =)

Simply caring,

CK