Lack of Care, Caring Enough or Over-Caring

As people will always say, too much or too little of something is never the right remedy. This basically means that in whatever we do, we have to always strike the right balance. Easy as it sounds, lets look further into it and see whether can we really strike that right balance.

Lets take a simple example, how much should we really care for a person? Now, no matter what people say, I would like to first state my point of view, which is that we can never care enough for a person, especially the one we deeply love. It can never be enough. I mean, how can we judge the amount of care for that particular person? How can we ever know whether its lacking, enough or when it comes to a stage where caring turns into annoying and irritating?

I'll have to admit, too much of something is never good. If we were to care for someone in the way where we call or msg that person every single minute or every single hour, it would then turn into harrassing that person. This is no doubt. Then, what is it that we should do when we really worry bout that person? Obviously, we would try to get in touch with him/her and then ask bout his/her whereabouts, whether he/she's fine and so on.

ONE HOUR LATER...

Knowing that he/she is somewhere far, in a bad mood, you just keep thinking of him/her and you just feel like getting in touch again. Now, here's where the problem arises. After just an hour, we are worried again. We tend to look at it as a fair thing to do based on our perspective. Well, it does seem fair at the first instance. Nevertheless, it still has the chance of turning into a problem or at times becomes an issue that would be hard to solve within a short period of time.

Don't get me wrong though, I ain't putting the blame on anyone and not saying that anyone is at fault. I guess what I am really trying to say is that we can never find the right balance between not enough, just enough and more than enough. Sometimes, we feel that its the right thing to do and we just do it w/out thinking bout the consequences. At times as well, we tend to really get pretty much worried and because we really care, we act in ways that may be rather unacceptable.

Well, with that said, I guess the main thing that I am trying to conclude here is that the understanding between both parties has to be there.

Having said that as well, I totally agree if anyone out there were to come and tell me that the ultimate solution is the willingness to tolerate and give the special someone the space that he/she needs and deserves. That is simply essential and it leads to many positive things including showing the other party that the faith and trust towards one another is there. It gives both parties freedom, happiness and most of all being able to enjoy the relationship and share the love that they have for one another.

So, I guess, whether its lack of care, caring enough or over-caring... It does not really matter. What matters most is the time that both individuals in the relationship spend with one another and the memories they will bring with them for the rest of their lives. Nothing else matters beyond that. As long as they love one another, there shouldn't be any issue of lacking, enough or beyond enough. Simply said, it will never be enough. No matter how much we do or say, there's never enough of LOVE that can be shared within one another.

P.S. This is an original post. None of its contents have been edited prior to posting. =)

Simply caring,

CK

Specially For You

Times has been rough the past few days, especially the night before when things really got out of hand. I wasn't myself and I just showed a totally different side of me. On one hand, I am rather glad that I could actually show you my true colours in any way possible. However, on the other hand, I am actually very worried that it would affect our future and most importantly the present that we so cherished.

I may be right, I may be wrong for those that I have mentioned above, but that's what I really feel inside and I hope that it would really become a reality. That's the reason I am writing this post and dedicating it specially to you.

I would rather change to suit you, rather than you adopting to me and who I am. Yes, true and fair enough that in any relationship, both parties should understand one another and try to suit each others needs. Well, maybe it's because I really put alot of importance on you. Words can never explain how much you mean to me.

I really thank you for giving me a new meaning of life again. Motivating me to achieve greater heights, be it for me, you or the both of us, granting me the spirit and power to always think that the impossible is never out of reach. Most importantly, you gave me something very important that I strongly believe nobody can take away. You gave me a simple thing called LOVE and CARE.

Everynight I pray and hope that we can both really make it in the near future. I am all ready and the confidence level in me is building day by day. I have to admit as well that, I did committed huge mistakes that seemed rather unforgivable at that particular moment. Nevertheless, you never gave up on me and gave me chance and chance again to change myself and make things better for the both of us. I really THANK you for that.

With that on mind, there's nothing more I can say now than to tell u these three words that I really mean from the bottom of my heart.

I LOVE YOU... =)

PS. Sorry for all the mistakes I committed that have hurt you. I made a promise to you that I would change. This promise I shall keep inside me and on my mind for the rest of my life. Please forgive me...

With love,

CK

Meaning of My Life

Everyday of my life begins with a very simple breakfast, followed by a long but rather quick journey to college. Classes will start everyday without fail, and before I know it, I am on my way back home, where I'll have to continue with my studies (more importantly now as exams are nearing in May). This is basically how things were for the past one year or so.

It wasn't until very recently that I found a very special person that brought a change to my life. This very special person not only brought a change (as mentioned in my previous post), this person also gave me a meaning in life. Gone are the days where I only have my family, friends, studies and club whom were there to fill my time and advance daily without fear of boringness nor without meaning.

Now, not only do I have this person to always be there for me, SHE has also given me a meaning in life. SHE is the meaning of MY LIFE. I look forward to the start of every brand new day now. Every morning is a brand new exciting start for me. I always look forward to what new areas will we venture into, what new happenings that would bring us closer to one another and most importantly, looking forward to the day when she would finally be mine.

I have never felt so motivated before in my entire life. Studying had always been a mountain-climbing task for me, but now no more. I sit down in front of my study table everynight without fail, go thru a few chapters and prepare myself for my upcoming examinations with one thing in mind. Do it right, do it good!

Gone too are the days where I feel so dejected, bored with life and see no reason in continuing my long and winding journey. Yes, obstacles has always been there as life is never perfect. There are times where I admit, I have done things so seemingly wrong that I really regret in the end. Well, I really hope that thru this post, SHE could understand my wrong doings and forgive me.

Whenever things do not work out the way it is supposed to be, I hope that YOU could let me know, discuss about it and find a solution that will make things better for the both of us. Many a times before I have said, and I shall say it again; 'There is only one way for us, which is forward, to a place where we could both be happy together for the rest of our lives'.

P.S. Not trying to impose any stress k?? I remember everything I said, don't worry... =)

With Love,

CK

L.O.V.E

L - is for the way you LOOK at me.
O - is for the ONLY ONE I see.
V - is VERY VERY extraordinary.
E - is EVEN more than anything that you adore can...

Love is in the air this time around. With the moonlight brightly enlightening the dark shadows of the night and stars shining like never before, a special moment that deserves all the space that memory can hold forever and ever sparkled.

Well, as sweet as it may sound, things do not always run that smooth. Obstacles will always arise to provide challenge to one's life.

As the saying goes, 'Whatever will be, will be; Que Sera Sera'.

What I can do now is to continue playing my part and hope that one day she will be mine. Whatever I had mentioned before, I sincerely meant it from the bottom of my heart. Only time will prove that everything I said is true and only thru my actions can I prove my love to you.

I hope the day will come soon that I can then be able to shower you with all the love I can give.

Love you...

CK